A couple nights ago my wife and I were watching a movie. In the movie was a scene where one of the characters admits that they feel guilty for her mother being gone (the mother was in a car accident). She breaks down and it got me thinking about the lesson that I would want my girls to know should something happen to me. Normally, I post in this blog my spiritual musings, and different things like that. This though, is my personal blog and my personal thoughts. This is where I share who I am and what is important to me.
So this is for my girls.
There is nothing in this world that means more to me than you and your mother. There is nothing that I have done that I do not think about you guys. Everyday that I go to work and put in my time, it is for you or I am thinking about you. I love every daddy-daughter date that we go on. There is nothing that makes me happier than your smiling faces.
There is no sacrifice that is too big for me to make for you. And you can never feel bad for the sacrifices that I choose to make for you. I would give up everything in order to make sure you had what you NEED in your life. And since I have to focus on what you need, I have to say No. I have to teach you that you cannot have whatever you want and everything that you want.
It is my job as your dad to teach you about life and real life. My parents did it to me, and I am passing that on to you. You may not understand why I do the things that I do. I know that you will not always understand why you cannot have the toy or the candy bar. I know you might not understand why I turn the TV off on the weekend and make you play outside, but it is for your own good. It is so that someday you actually have a better life.
It kills me to see your tears and hear you cry, but I can take that on my shoulders knowing that you are growing in character. I know that you learning to understand that you cannot have everything you want when you want it, sets you up for success later in life. Teaching you how to control your emotions and learn to share your feelings as opposed to throwing a fit, will help you in the world later on. You will be an asset to those that you work with and have relationships with.
I promise to show you how you deserve to be loved, by loving your mom through thick and thin. Even when we do not see eye to eye, you will see that I love her and would go to the ends of the earth for her. I will set a standard for how you deserve to be treated. When I make a mistake, I will apologize and do my best to make it right. I will own my mistakes and teach you how to ask for forgiveness and not make excuses for them.
More than anything, I will be the best dad that I can be.